If you surf the net much or have ever watched any TV then I am sure you have seen some form of Asian dating services being advertised. Is it because Asian women are just that attractive, or something more? It has to be something pretty substantial for a man to pay thousands of dollars, and wait a prolonged amount of time for the process to clear. In some cases the bride to be can just barely speak enough English to be able to communicate with the man sweeping her off her feet.
I believe the root of this booming business stems from some American men feeling like they were not appreciated in previous relationships. This is understandable considering almost every one of us in America (including myself) take for granted what we have. It is a trend we will likely never get over unless we lose all the little things we have come to feel like we deserve. I can see the value in someone that appreciates the little things in life.
A lack of self esteem in some cases could be a motivating factor. Finally being in control, and choosing someone you desire instead of being picked over can be a liberating experience. While I’m sure this isn’t the reason for everyone I imagine this is a factor in most cases if only in a small way.
One of the biggest reasons people look to Asian dating services is probably for security. While the willingness to commit to a relationship rest solely on the individual it is obviously much harder for someone from a foreign country to simply leave. Without the safety net to fall back on it can be seemingly impossible to just give up. Imagine being thrust into a relationship in Asia with someone with no money to your name. Simply communicating would be a struggle much less navigating through the country trying to make it back to the country you are from. Even worse in their case a lot of the women who come here don’t have relatives with a phone to contact. This is probably a contributing factor to divorce rates for “Asian mail order brides” in America being much lower than average divorce rates here.
It’s really sad that these women have to flee their country for a chance at happiness. It doesn’t seem fair, but it is the world we live in. Much like us they are doing what they feel they need to do to find happiness. Who are we to look down on them for seeking a better life?
If this is something you’re interested in I urge you to do your research. While the process can seem like a business transaction it is far from it. Never forget that this is an individual’s life you are affecting. I personally know couples that went this route, and it was the best thing that ever happened to both of their lives. I also know couples that met this way, and it was a complete train wreck.